The Garnet Host wrote:You posted under a quote from another board member who had asked about those who are only present for certain situations, which implies to me that you were directing your commentary toward their situation.
Ok, it was poor timing and placement on my part, I didn't realize it would be taken like that. When I posted it I was thinking of it as a one-off type of link. Anotherwords like, the difference between grey and black.
I wasn't trying to insinuate that a multiple facet (or whatever term you prefer here, I've lost track of which ones offend who at this point) who wasn't around much was unimportant. I was merely saying that a facet who WAS unimportant...yadda yadda.
It was a comment made in poor taste and I apologize for that, though it could have been handled better than by attempts at internet intimidation.
The Garnet Host wrote:What people generally endure has no bearing on the expectations of conduct on this board, and you are making assumptions when you suggest that I expect a higher level of respect for multiples than singlets.
And I was actually referring to Deros' comment here. About how people with difficult to explain situations demand more respect than others. Hogwash, imo.
The Garnet Host wrote:If I'm overreacting, I'm overreacting because my system, and probably others here as well, have sit through enough "jokes" about individuals not being inherently worth something and have suffered serious consequences from repeatedly hearing that message. Being told it's okay because immature high school students do worse is not acceptable to me and it's not going to comfort the less healthy members of the system if a comment like that is the one to put one of them back into zir old, unhealthy mindset, misinterpretation or not.
I was not trying to imply that simply because it's done by a group of people it's okay.
I was more implying that in comparison to something that's generally considered a 'normal' situation that my faux pas was relatively minor.
I, too, suffered the sling and arrows of high school shenanigans and I know many are worse off for that than I am, so I know the pain there and I'm not trying to make light of that.
But again, I'd like to emphasize here something that I'm not sure if it's a rule on this board or another I frequent, but I think, key to any 'friendly' community - which is a rule here, is the "Assumption of Good Intent".
If you go over every post that you find offensive and immediately believe the person who posted it was 'out to get you' then a friendly atmosphere will NEVER be possible. It's too easy to type the wrong thing, link the wrong quote, reference accidentally something someone finds offensive...
It's much better to simply assume the person was not TRYING to offend you and just offer up the fact that you WERE offended and how that can be avoided in the future. So long as you're civil about it and don't make ludicrous demands, I think this would be the 'adult' path to take.
I would like to, again, apologize, on my part, for starting this whole thing, and any hand I had in continuing it past any point it could have ended and I would hope to not cause something like this again.
That's all I'm saying on the issue.
