"The Ups and Downs of living in a Multiple System"

[Annwyn]

another up and down if the person you share a body with is the opposite gender:

using the restroom.

--Gabriel

I don't really get this - which public toilet I need is a product of my physical form. I don't see that there's a positive or negative connotation attached to either.

"Gender disphoria" (or whatever term is appropriate) is of course another issue.

I find it difficult because just using the restroom with a female body when one's definitely male and has spent the greater part of 20 years closing one's eyes and going "la la la" every time the need arose, is something to get used to. It's hard to realize that I'm not in a female body and that it works differently and looks different--especially when I'm not a fan of the female body.

--Gabriel

[Archer]

That's not a product of having someone of the opposite physical sex "in" you - that's a product of your consciousness not accepting/acknowleding your current physical reality. That can certianly happen in tandem with having headmates of different physical sexes (not genders - last I heard, gender didn't define whether you pissed standing up or sitting down) but they're not the same thing.

While I'm sure it could be confusing, difficult, and even traumatic (which covers the "down" side) I don't really get how it's an "up" as well - unless of course you're in a male body and you keep wandering into female toilets to find flowers, and scented oils, and beautiful ornamental tiling etc . . .

[momo]

Uh ... well, although Blake has moments of looking down or in the mirror and thinking "Huh ... oh yeah, female body", he hasn't really had issues with using the bathroom (although, when he's not focussing, he's nearly walked into the men's loos).

Like Archer, I wouldn't really say it's an up or a down. A restroom's a restroom. XD




~ Lishie

[Annwyn]

I more or less agree...though I refuse to go into another men's restroom (the one I went into was disgusting, lol).

--Sarah

[Deros]

The different gender thing has never been an issue with either Kraela or Yriela. From what I've picked up, their general opinion on the whole "male body" thing is a quiet confidence in "This too shall pass".

[chaitea]

awesome article, momo

not only does it sound great for new multiples to read, but also for otherkin who are curious about you systems (a.k.a. me).

[momo]

awesome article, momo

not only does it sound great for new multiples to read, but also for otherkin who are curious about you systems (a.k.a. me).

Sankyuu. :3



~ Lishie