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how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Thu Jan 10, 2008 4:48 pm
by kahoku
it's really hard to explain how you know what kind of kin you are, or if you actually are otherkin.

let's start with the otherkin thing. if you are one, you typically feel like you don't belong into a human body and into human society. you see yourself and your surroundings like from a 3rd persion view, there are human traits you don't really understand and you feel you want to just run away without being able to say why and from what. in some situations you might want to growl, hiss, bite, fly away or get invisible... so there are reactions that you cannot explain. you just have that odd feeling of not being like all the others. many otherkin also feel limbs that aren't there like wings or claws.

the more difficult part is to determine what kind of kin you are. i have heard statements like "i have black wings, i must be a demon", which is totally wrong. you have to search deep within yourself. what are the differences between you and a "normal" human? do you feel strongly connected to an animal? are you empathic and is it your wish to guide and help others? are you drawn to chaos, do you despise everything that talks of itself as "good" and "righteous"? do you love nature, walking in forests etc.? these are just sample questions that should help you to get an idea of your kin type. it also helps to read a forum like this - do you feel "at home" in a certain section of the forum?

unfortunately nobody can tell you whether you are kin or what type of kin. you have to find that out for yourself. and it may take weeks, months, even years, so be patient. people who tie themselves down to a certain type too fast may eventually realize they have been wrong all the time and have a hard time coping with the results.

i have always known i am a demon. talking to other demons in various forums has given me more info on our kind, which, however, didn't seem to be new to me, just like old memories coming back again. i know what it is like to float around, without a body, how people react when (if) they see me etc., it feels strange to eat, drink and especially to sleep. but i also know the advantages of a human body - communicating with humans is easier, they aren't afraid of you and suddenly you understand concepts that were unimaginable before - pain, illness, physical love... the mere fact that i am so fascinated about those things excludes most kin types

if you are a potential otherkin searching for answers, i hope i could help you.

-kahoku

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 9:09 pm
by KB1403
can you help me figure out what kin i am? i've always wondered. even when i knew nothing about "kin", i've always felt like something besides human. since i can think back to, which was probably aorund 5.

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 9:58 pm
by momo
KB1403 wrote:can you help me figure out what kin i am? i've always wondered. even when i knew nothing about "kin", i've always felt like something besides human. since i can think back to, which was probably aorund 5.


Well first off, an intro wouldn't go amiss! ^^ Just to introduce yourself properly to our members, and we can get to know you!

And we can't tell you if you're kin or not, or even what one you are. That is a journey you will have to take yourself. We are a support forum and by all means come to us with questions, but your kinship is your discovery. ^^

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 10:05 pm
by Xanthus
Goddamnit, Jim! I'm a forumite, not a cyptozoologist! :@

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 11:43 pm
by Rein
KB1403 wrote:can you help me figure out what kin i am? i've always wondered. even when i knew nothing about "kin", i've always felt like something besides human. since i can think back to, which was probably aorund 5.

No one can tell you what kind of kin you are. That's a personal conclusion that you must discover for yourself through careful evaluation and soul searching. We can give you helpful hints, but ultimately this is all up to you.

On another note, why is it that you have "Wolf/Fae" listed under your kintype, yet you say you don't know what you are?

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 5:51 am
by Veritas
Because maybie that is what they are drawn to so far. I would say early speculation but that in itself is speculation. Be careful with the newbies Kay some of them scare easy.

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 6:09 pm
by KB1403
The reason I said fae/wolf is because I think I suprisingly realized that I was those things when I was younger, without even knowing there were more kin, as I now know they're called, like me. I am still not sure completely if it is those two things, so that is why I asked if they could help me. Thanks for the tips though, everyone!

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 6:13 pm
by momo
KB1403 wrote:The reason I said fae/wolf is because I think I suprisingly realized that I was those things when I was younger, without even knowing there were more kin, as I now know they're called, like me. I am still not sure completely if it is those two things, so that is why I asked if they could help me. Thanks for the tips though, everyone!


Um, sure thing. Like I said earlier though, don't go rushing into stuff, okay? :)

And please make an introduction.

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 8:17 pm
by chaitea
Lovely article, ‘hoku.

I know I’m glad I waited before outright declaring my kinship. Way back when I was going threw my awakening my immediate conclusion was that I must be a giant[kin] (I was unaware of the terminology back then, lat alone that there was an entire community). I was just waiting to fill out all those size XXL t-shirts I kept getting myself since I expected to grow into them after puberty. Not to long after that I discovered the phantom sensation of wings, and latter a tale. So my assumptions is it all take not only self discovery but time.

AS for being sure of my kinship, as comfortable as I am with it now I still feel like I’ll every really know weather or not I am kin. That’s something that I don’t believe can be assumed outright, rather it’s an aspect of faith. I can’t be sure I am a dragon of sorts, but I can have faith in the belief that I am.

Re: how to be sure - are you kin?

PostPosted: Fri May 30, 2008 5:17 am
by Rein
The user "Otherkin Slayer" has been banned.

I am putting out a reminder to all members: If you see a troll, do not feed them. It means they win.